| Re: Dementia? Psychotic symptoms. Prognosis?
Psychotic symptoms can usually be controlled with drugs - it may take a while of trial and error before one is found without bringing on such side effects.
A very predicable and never changing daily routine is often very calming to Dementia victims. Making any decisions - even such as what to wear - can throw them into a state of fear and then rage. During my 5 years as caregiver I did not know that. Only when Mom was in the nursing home and an aide came in every morning, took something out of her closet, and said to Mom, "this is what you are wearing today", did the anxiety diminish. The same for any other kind of choice. Don't ask, "what do you want to eat today?" Making such a decision is too much, too threatening.
Simplify everything. Never argue. If she tells you it is Sautrday and not Thursday, say, "oh, really?" and do not correct her. Being corrected reminds her she is losing (or has lost) her rational thinking, and results in anxiety and then rage.
It is not easy, but we all learn by trial and error. It was such a relief to me when I (an ex teacher) finally got used to NOT correcting Mom's ''mistakes" ... just saying, "that's right," or "uh huh." 90% of the tension in her home vanished overnight. Not liking to admit it was my fault - but I was still trying after 4 years of dementia care to ''make everything all right by just explaining things to her.'' A useless effort.
Good luck. I'm so sorry you are in this position.
love,
Martha
Last edited by Martha H; 05-29-2008 at 01:23 PM.
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