Spoke to my li' bro last night. He said my mum's sleep pattern has rectified itself!!!! He got a call from the consultant's psychiatric nurse yersterday, and we have been advised to put mum in a NH ASAP. This will be "party hats and streamers" We've always respected mum. Even as a 52 yr. old adult she can still affect me. When she was sectioned 2 weeks ago she went for my lil' sis with her walking stick. One of the doctors that was in the house had to body-block her. Feels funny saying lil' sis. She's 50 My brother is 47. We still feel like we did when all of us were under the age of 10. It was always the three of us against the world growing up in the slums of Edinburgh. We've grown up, carved out lives for ourselves and come together again to deal with "this problem" Heyho gotta go. XX Mentalmum
ps my oldest daughter thought up this title. She said it was for grandma, and also she thinks I'm mental. Little doeas she know????
It is good that your Mom is going to get the care that she needs and you will get the respit you need. It is not mentally healthy for any of you to continually deal with Mom's aggitation and agression. I do know that feelings of helplessness and guilt (just like a child) when you have to defend yourself against an attack ,when you heart is telling you that it is from someone that you love and someone that loves you. It is excellent that the three siblings can band together to get through this time. That is rare and you should value the experiences that allows you to do that.
I hope the transition goes smoothly for your Mom and for your brother, sister, and for yourself. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
It is normal for you to feel like kids again in the light of your Mom's deterioration. It gives us a helpless feeling .. even as grown up and aging 'kids.
I was in my early 60s when Mom began to show signs of Alzheimers. and it was the hardest thing I ever had to get through. Instead of being the respected and most wise and all knowing matriarch of the family, now she was telling 'lies', wandering off, soiling herself, being unknowingly rude, annoying people -- and yet did not like it when her children told her what to do. It is a dilemma ... glad you got the go ahead to place her in a nursing home, and I hope it all goes smoothly for all of you.