Hi Ceedee...it's interesting to see what others say!
My own Mother was diagnosed 10 yrs. ago...and placed in an AF. Her health was very good...which she attributed to dandelion greens, seaweed, and whole wheat!! (we had to eat that stuff back in the 50's and 60's when friends were drinking Cool-Aid and eating Oreo's!!) Absolutely EVERYTHING we ate was healthy and from scratch...Dad had a 2-acre organic garden we lived out of....and of course, as each of us left home....our eating habits quickly changed!
Mom's little body is STILL healthy! (funny how she always struggled to loose weight, and now that she's "little"....what does it really matter??)
According to the caretakers, she is an exception. She still tries to eat on her own...one little grain of rice, or pea, or cheerio at a time. She sits all alone after each meal...slowly repeating this pattern until her dish is clean. She had been a wonderful artist, and now her right hand is in a clenched position from Parkinson's...which often accompanies Alzheimer's...her left hand is the only tool she has now. I watch as she struggles to pick up her glass and tries desperately to get at the liquid from the bottom...licking the base and not realizing it has to be tipped. She usually gets upset when someone tries to help, but once in a while, I'm able. I've noticed lately that when I kiss her cheek, she turns her head and opens her mouth like a nursing baby does.
The first time I was taken to this "last building"...where clients in the very end stages are placed...I cried all the way home. Usually, they are there only a short time, but Mom has been in this building 5 years. I was heart-broken to see dolls cradled in lifeless arms...twisted bodies with no expressions...occasional terrified calls...and the caretakers carefully pureeing food that clients could easily digest. Why would anyone want "this" for their loved one??? NONE of us do....and I prayed Mom would leave us quickly.
It took a while for me to realize this was a somewhat selfish prayer...surely there is still much for me to learn. Now, my prayer is that she will find peace..............and that's my prayer for each of us...............Pam