My Mother is the primary caregiver of my Grandmother who is 88 years old. She is able to walk and talk and feed herself. And she has full use of all her limbs and all bodily functions and she's not on any medications, except for occational antibiotics. (Thank God!) SHE'S ALSO STONG AS AN OX!!
However, her mind is off.....sometimes. You can tell her 5 times NOT to do something and she'll do it anyway....we can be talking directly to her looking her right in the eyeballs and she will act like we don't even exist, but let one of us get on the phone and she's ALL in the conversation
Most of the time, she acts confused and I do believe that she is, but then she'll turn right around and do or say some things that display she has more sense than all of us put together and thats so frustrating!
She can just be sweet as honey sometimes
and very mean-spirited and un-cooperative the rest of the time
She has DISGUSTING habits such as eating her feces in the middle of the night while she's in bed
(hence the need for antibiotics) and digging thru the bathroom trash. For this reason, we have to keep a watchful eye on her while she's in the bathroom. My mother cleans her up everyday, sometimes multiple times during the day and my grandmother fights her tooth and nail EVERYTIME
but my mother REFUSES to let her stay dirty and develop an odor. Anybody else might throw their hands up.
I've lived with them for a year now and before I moved back home, my mother used to tell me some of the things that my Grandmother does but it was so hard to believe! But now I actually witness most of it and it really takes a toll on my mother some days.
My mother has decided to keep my grandmother home and care for her for as long as she's able to. Putting her in a facility for other people to take care of her would be detrimental because as I stated above, she's a real peice of work and doctors/nurses are quick to use sedating drugs or even use restraints on un-cooperative patients.
My mother is the only one of her siblings that's willing to take on this mega responsibility. She's pretty much put her own life on hold to take care of my grandmother. I do what I can, but the one thing I haven't done is clean her up which I honestly don't think I have the patience for.
Has anyone of you here decided to care for your parent(s) at home and you're experiencing something similar to what I've described? If so, are you willing to share if there's something that's made things a little easier to deal with??
Thanks so much in advance!!