Dad will start his transition to the Reminisent Center (locked unit) tomorrow morning. Mom was included in the last half of the meeting. She came in the room in tears because she thought we were talking about her, then she dissolved into more tears when she figured out what was happening. She said "NO!!!". She would just take Dad and move back home. She never did give her blessing but either resolved that she couldn't stop it or tuned it out. We will know which in the morning. Dad was actually better the last couple of days while I was there but the fact that the stairs are directly across from their room, and he consistently goes down the stairs in his wobbly state is enough to need to move him. We will see how it goes. It was a hard decision to make, difficult on Mom, will be difficult on Dad, but I think it was the right one.
Dearest Deb....
Praying hard for this transition for your mom and dad.....it will be hard for them, hard for all of you......I so wish you did not have to deal with yet another hurdle.
What are we going to do with these Sisters huh??? It's hard to imagine how their minds work...but maybe we're better off not knowing some days.
Please keep us posted how mom and dad are doing....
Love, Caroline xo
Kinda breaks your heart some doesn't it? It will ache so bad because you are going to have to keep up the happy face for both of your parents in the next few days. Only when you are alone will you be able to drop the smile and let your guard down and weep for the injustice of it all. I am soo sorry for you and your dad. But I know that it is for his own safety and good, and that is better for him.
I wonder how your Mom will do without him. Do you think that she will cope or do you think that she will slip down the hill faster now that he won't be there with her? I hope that she can stay stable and get out of the room and socialize with the other ladies in the area....
My prayers are with your folks. Now keep your chin up and know that I am here to keep your chin up. I'll ball up my fist so you can rest your chin on it. Keep your smile firmly in place, tough as it may be. Then you can weep after hours. I've done the laundry and there's a whole stack of clean towels...both red and purple for you.....
BTW, how much did #4 charge for the meeting?
Last edited by ibake&pray; 02-11-2009 at 10:09 AM.
Just a quick update. Dad went into Reminiscent this morning and Mom went down to visit. The next event was Mom trying to take Dad out of the building to go home. When they were told that wouldn't happen Dad got angry and threatened violence. Mom got angry and then melted into tears. Then Dad got more angry because they upset Mom. At this point they both have steeled resolve that they are NOT sleeping in separate beds. The facility social worker is now trying to convince either/both of them or anything beyond the hostility they are both feeling and it's not working. Beyond that Dad's noticed the wander bracelet because somebody ask about it when they was escaping. He is determined to cut it off and throw it in the creek. This is NOT going well at all.
It's hard to imagine how their minds work...but maybe we're better off not knowing some days.
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