Families - Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia Message Board

Martha H · 03-02-2009, 04:35 AM

Dear Friends,

I'm leaving soon for FL and my son's wedding. With my daughter and her family, we'll drive to Chicago and fly to Miami on the 4th, the wedding is on the 7th and we'll fly back on March 11. I may not have computer access during this time and will also be very busy.

It will also be a reunion with people I last saw at Mom's funeral and with one whom I have not seen for much longer than that, my Ex. My sister will also be there, and sadly there is still some tension in the air caused by her denial of Mom's condition and her criticism of my ways of dealing with Mom for 5 years. But my wonderful brother and sister in law are also coming, and it will be a joy to see them again. All my children and all my grandchildren will finally be together again after several years - my son and grandddaughter from Germany will also be there.

There will be a lot of happiness and also some awkward moments.

I wish my Mom had been able to experience this wedding of her youngest grandchild - but no, the way she was that last year, she would not have been able to attend anyway, and her death was a release from her suffering.

I'll miss all of you and will spend some time reading your postings when I return.

Love,

Martha

mary09 · 03-02-2009, 05:57 AM

Oh Martha,

I am so happy for you going on this trip, especially for such a happy occasion as your sons wedding. We will miss you so very much while you're gone, and will pray for you to have a wonderful time and to come home safely. I'm sure there may be a few awkward moments with Sister, but perhaps it is a good sign that she is attending the wedding.....shows that she still wants to be part of "family". Believe me Martha, I'm about to give birth and none of my family have even acknowledged it, so there is hope my friend!!!! Maybe this happy occasion can be something to help smooth over some waters? Regardless, first and foremost, you have a wonderful time, and go bless those people with your wonderful presence!!!!! Hope all goes well.....and thank you so much for all your support this past week.

Love, Caroline xo

DrewsG · 03-02-2009, 07:18 AM

Dear Martha,

Your trip sounds wonderful and seeing your son and granddaughter from Germany is a bonus. I'm so very glad for you. It's always a treat for us Moms to have our children all together isn't it?

Other than being around your Ex (

) I'm certain it will be a happy occasion. You'll be missed here and we'll be waiting for your report when you return home.

Safe trip friend.

Love, Chris

caringsister54 · 03-02-2009, 07:57 AM

Dearest Martha

Even if you have to pay for them, get family portraits taken now that everyone is together. Especially one with all the grandchildren. Then get one with your brother, sister and you. Put aside any issues, swallow and enjoy the happiness.

But those pictures will become very important in the future. And its a rare occasion when everyone is together and all dressed up!!!

Have fun, Eat Plenty and love, love, love.

Your CaringSister54

Gabriel · 03-02-2009, 11:17 AM

The trip sounds phantastic Martha and I hope you enjoy every minute of it. Don't let the awkward potentia cast any shadow on any of the smiles and laughter the event will give you. Just ignore the negative and focus on the positive. Yes, pictures are a must. Sometimes to bring home with you and cherish. Have a wonderful time, enjoy the festivities and the people you love. Have a safe trip, refresh your spirit, and reenergize yourself. Yes, you will be miss here, but knowing you are having a special time make is all worthwhile. Can't wait to hear about it when you get back

Love, deb