I am leaving in the morning to go see Mom and Dad myself. I did have a long conversation on the phone with Sister 3 tonight. It was good to hear some current information. Mom has been in melt down mode for almost 2 weeks now. The doctor has been in to see her several times. She is on a new med to calm her down. The doctor said that she should be a zombie but instead she continues to disolve into tears, tear up and down the hall, and is generally miserable causing one disturbance after another. The doctor truly wants to get Mom past this stage in her disease. Dad has settled down and if we can get Mom under control then they can stay. She is very concerned about the trauma of moving them and especially Mom's inability to adjust.
I did find out that sister 3 had also checked out a new facility because the possibility of them having to move is still alive and well. Sister 3 also know what I have found. We both decided that if they move, they need to move into a locked unit. No more AL. They are putting refundable ernest money down on a new facility that is opening the end of April. If Mom and Dad have to move sooner than that, they will definitely end up here.
I will know more after I arrive there tomorrow. I am staying with Sister 3. I still have not talked to Sister 4.
Friday I am meeting Sister 2 (and possibly sister 3) at Mom and Dad's house to spend the weekend cleaning out closets and making an inventory or what is there. I am still being questioned by sister 3, and sister 4 by proxy, about how to make the division financially equal. I told them I didn't know if there was a way. Sister 4 says she doesn't want anything else. Sister 3 only wants the best of what is there. Sister 2 is addicted to tupperware. I will end up with sewing stuff that I really don't need. A third of Mom and Dad's possessions are in AL with them. This is not the final disposition of the estate and there is no money to make up the difference. So how do you make it equal. I will bring the porcelain dolls, patters, and material home and work on dressing them. Then I will give them back to the grand daughters, great grand children, and the sisters. Mom has probably 20 undressed dolls in the closet. Are the dolls part of my part? What value do you put on items. I'm not paying for an appraiser to come in for what is left unless they are willing to pay for it. Most of the "good" stuff is with Mom and Dad. Beyond that, much has already been taken and I am sure nobody, except maybe sister 4, knows where all if it is and what should be counted. Sisters 2, 3, and I agreed to put names on items and then barter giving consideration to what the grand daughters wanted. Sister 4 opted out. In the end, there was not even a consensus about giving the quilts to the grand daughters when there are 6 quilts and 6 grandaughters. Three are no brainers and the other three are almost just alike. I wish we could come to just one decision without it being a crisis or a drama !!!SIGH!!!
Then I am going to spend a few days with my Daughter. I am going to need it!!!
I will be back next next week but will probably check in from time to time
I can't go that long without all of you.