today we are sending one of our beloved family members to the other side...my uncle, my godfather ,my freind is gone...my mom is mixed up and thinks both her mom and brother have passed this same week so she is very depressed...please keep my mom in your thoughts today as she is so wounded by it all..
this is going to one of those days when I will be crying off and on all day..I am not sure if I am crying from the loss of my uncle or the reality that my mom is so mixed up. I had thouht I had come to terms with my moms alz. but seeing her like this is so heartbreaking . this is the first loss of a famly member that I was really close to .
Sorry for your loss. Please do not mention this to your Mom again. Depending on what stage she is in, she will have forgotten it by tomorrow. Leave her in the belief he is still alive. Otherwise she has to grieve anew every time she 'finds out'. Sorry you have this double burden.
In one of her clearer moments she new that my uncle was very ill, she was not told by us but through a distant relative that had no idea of my mom's condition, we just have to hope that it passes quickly and never another word about it will be said, as you say she will greive just as it just happened again and again.....
I am truly sorry for the ones that are left behind that your uccle has passed on. I can understand your feelings about your Uncle and about your Mom. There are times when the reality of the situation hits home. Hopefully your Mom will not dwell on what her brother's death. I hope you can celebrate his life and remember for both you and your Mom.
I am so sorry. When we had to deal with someones death in the family it was much harder on us because Mom would be so hurt all over again just remembering that her loved one was now gone too. It frightened her so.
When she would talk of her younger sister, the last one to pass away, we would just go along as though she were still here. The next time she talked about her she would remember that she was gone and the tears would start again. So sad.