Oh Polina how awesome that you were able to go once a year for 10 years
I hadn't been since I was 13, and I will turn 46 next week, so that was a long time to wait! It was a week of my life I will always treasure. I hope Polina, Martha & all my Alz's pals can find their way to Hawaii either in reality or in your spirit
That is my wish for all of you today.
Well, I had the BIG TALK with my DSD yesterday and it went very well. My mom basically let me do the talking and, I don't know if it was the Hawaii trip that rejuvenated me or what, but I did pray before I went into the facility to talk to him. I prayed for the right words - at the right time. I often do this (well, I pray alot anyway) and it really really helps. He was receptive, understood what was happening, was concerned about their house (were we going to sell it?), also wanted to know how much parking there was (very sweet as he hasn't driven in over a year now but was concerned about parking for his truck).
I assured him we're not selling the house at this time - that there was parking for their car (my mom chimed in & reminded him he doesn't drive any longer - wish she would have left that out, but oh well...........) - and that none of this was permanent. That this was the next step and that it wasn't safe for he and mom to return to live in their house with-all-the-stairs-on-the-hillside-where-he-took-tons-of-falls-last-year.
He's happy to know he's going to be moving out of "dementialand" as I now call it! Cognitively at this point in time he doesn't belong there (he did when he arrived from the hospital in July, but now he belongs on the higher functioning dementia unit if he were staying long term at the skilled nursing facility), so it's all working out. I realize there is much more to come as we travel this world of dementialand, but for now, he and mom can live together again and be well cared for. YIPPEEE!! The movers are scheduled for Oct 1st. My DSD will be discharged Oct 2nd, and then I will celebrate my birthday Oct 3rd.
Question - should I start a new thread? Is this one getting too tattered and worn? Opinions?? Sending up a big ol' prayer of gratitude for my Alz's pals on this GORGEOUS day here in the Pacific Northwest! We hit a high of 85 yesterday!?! Pretty unusual for this late in September.