Hi Tammy....you are SO welcome! You will surely give everyone a perspective into the caretaking of our loved ones that will give relief to many here!
I lost my Mom this March after 10 years in a very wonderful Alzheimer's Facility...FIL in Dec....and MIL the year before...both also with Alzheimer's. Each inlaw had been in facilities for about 4 years. I learned a LOT!!
Especially in the place where my Mom was...the care was excellent. I realized that most of the caretakers knew first-hand the devestation this horrendous disease brings...they treated Mom like she was their Mom...I witnessed this with all their clients.
The medical facility FIL was in also took tremendously good care of Dad....very different setting, but he was well taken care of.
MIL was in a private facility...it was easy for me to compare her care to my Mom's.............but her sons would not take any suggestions from me about improvement to her care.
You'll see much discussion about decisions to put a loved one in a facility...it's such a difficult decision accompanied by much guilt! Those of us here who have already lost loved ones, surely understand this!
So many fears accompany Alzheimer's...and rightly so! The effect it has on the entire family certainly changes us all...but we have to realize the fears are very much known to the afflicted person... and this is heartbreaking.
Hope you stay around...your insight will be much appreciated...and you'll find helpful info that you'll be able to use also!......Pam