Obsessions are so typical jags. Mom's was washing windows and rearranging the straw in the flower beds. She would wash windows on Monday and do them again on Thursday. There were only 25 windows and doors in that house so it was not an easy task. At least she put in drop down windows that could be washed from the inside but gezzzz. Then she would spend several days sitting in the flower beds picking out leave and rearranging the straw. It didn't matter if it was 50 degrees or 100 degrees. She also horded things and I have the remains of that in my house now. What to do with all that stuff? Perhaps Dad can limit her to one item or fewer shopping trips? I had to laugh because I thought of Mom and her graham cracker pie crust. We split them up when we clean out her kitchen. I brought home about 20. But I also had about 20 boxes of instant pudding to put in them
Number are an abstract thinking process and that goes pretty early. I will never forget the day Mom was talking about her puzzle and stumbling with what she was trying to say. Finally she read off 5, 0, 0, and then ask me what that was. Mom your puzzle has 500 pieces! Oh, then why didn't it just say so. She could not read the number....
You did mention something that I felt myself. Not only was the caregiver we had when Mom and Dad were at home valuable for helping Mom and Dad... she was even more valuable at letting me know what was going on when I was not there. What a relieve that was. Even if Mom threw one of her southern hissy fits... at least I knew when they happened and what happened. That is when I learned that it was not Dad that was creating the major problems but mom's agitation of Dad that was the problem. I got a whole different perspective of what was going on (the real one) that was not clouded by "what Mom said". The caregiver was a god send in truly knowing what was going on.
Yep, one day, then two days, then three days, then seven. It may be what keeps them at home a little longer. Take solace in knowing that you are doing good things for Mom and Dad and that so far it is turning out well