Re: Dementia very stubborn
As Deb says, try to stay very positive and don't let him sense that you're worried about getting him in the door or that you want him to hurry up. You can try little tricks, like asking him to help you carry boxes of Kleenex in, telling him that he had offered to help (caregiver name) with wheelchairs that morning, ask him to check if you left your coat there yesterday, ask him if he'd mind if you have to pick him up a little early today...anything to take his mind off the fact that he's being dropped off.
The morning routine for me got longer and longer too, until I found I was waking up at 4:00am to get to my job by 8:30 (I was supposed to start at 8 but the day care center opened at 8. My boss let me start at 8:30 and work through lunch as an FMLA accomodation). Between getting DH dressed, shaved, giving him breakfast, brushing his teeth and trying to get myself ready for work, the morning routine began to stretch longer and longer. The day care center let me know they couldn't keep him anymore due to behavior issues about the time that I had to start cleaning poop out of the shower drain every morning.
Everything in Alzheimers-World is a stage. This stage may pass in a few weeks or months. He may be fine in a few weeks, or his stubbornness may start to extend into the day and cause problems for the day-care workers. If that happens, they may tell you that they can't handle him anymore. That's the situation I found myself in about a year after DH's behavior problems started. It was time for NH placement, but that's another story.
Last edited by Beginning; 01-02-2011 at 02:19 AM.