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Old 08-30-2011, 06:40 AM   #1
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Thank you for the replies again---it made me try something different today---hubby kept talking about someone coming to give him an injection and instead of telling him it`s not real,I said that if the person turned up,I would tell him he`s not needed.Also when he saw a man in the garden stealing a chair I went and told him to leave and not come back.So playing along seems to have worked at least for this.....although hubby told me off for using a wrong tone with the man in the garden...... I guess his reality must become my reality,too.You guys /girls are a blessing to a newcomer like me.

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Re: thanks again

You are doing the right thing! We did this all the time with my FIL back home.
It is funny at times but in the end it became ridiculous but that is all we can do.

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You got it. His reality is as real to him as your reality is to you. If he perceives these people and things in his mind then they are there for him. I have used that same trick many times to alleviate fear and anxiety. When you acknowledge their fear and anxiety and give them a resolutions (real of not) it does make them feel better.

I had to laugh yesterday. One of the residents in Mom's unit was anxious concerning the bus that she couldn't find. So one of the caregivers validated her anxiety, that the bus was not there, and then told her the buses were cancelled because of the hurricane and would start again tomorrow. She went on to say she was safe with us for we were a hurricane shelter. Thinking it was ok (the resident did calm down) she started to walk off when the resident said...."But the sun is shining!" DARN... lol But it did distract her when the caregiver took her for a ride in the courtyard! You have to laugh! Don't forget the laughter and the smiles... they are what will get you through.

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good for you. its so much easier to interact like that rather than fighting. you are being positive and that is what you need.

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