You have your hands full. It is good that he can still get dressed himself.
One day you will have to help him to dress - you will have to put out the shorts in the morning so he knows he should wear that. Later on, you may need to help him to put it on. It is a slow process.
You are doing so well. You described the episodes so vividly... I had to wonder if the cats were real.
It is good your kids are there for you.
I know some big families are like yours -you have lots of family members to help out and you are close. I know a caregiver who is like that - she has a big extended family from other island country and the family is so closed that they care for their own elders. (Some of them are nurses themselves.)