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Old 09-06-2011, 02:44 AM   #1
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Smile good day came to an end!

Well I knew it would have to happen---the good day could not last forever.The evening was not too bad but then he hardly slept during the night and I found him at 6 am folding up t-shirts and underwear because he was convinced that police was coming for both of us,we had to go to court and we needed clothes in case we were thrown in jail......I managed to re-assure him that I would sort the "mess" out,no court,no jail,and he went to sleep.I`m glad he did as I was feeling emotially a bit fragile and I spent some time grieving---I guess for him but also for someone who passed away due to crack addiction 2 weeks ago.It was good to let the emotions out and not have to be strong 24/7.I was also able to go to a meditation meeting last night which always helps.
Last night was not too bad,he slept fitfully but slept and is still sleeping .I propably should be snoozing too but I treasure the time alone.It`s quiet except for the crickets and the roosters and the dawn is just breaking....
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Re: good day came to an end!

Many nights I stayed up with my mom when she was still at home. She was slways doing her book work and reports. This had to do with the job she had in retail. She is in a nursing home now under the care of Hospice. I would not still be able to function if I didn't have help, as it wears you down little by little. Try to take care of yourself and get all the help that is available. Thanks for sharing and you know we are always here to support you.

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Re: good day came to an end!

It is everyday struggle for you. It is harder when he can just get up and go like that... It is difficult to watch him 24 hours.

If you cannot sleep well, maybe sometimes you can get help. A part-time sitter. Some caregivers know how to deal with dementia.

Give yourself a break. It is nice reading your posts knowing that it is not easy to do this.

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Re: good day came to an end!

aviovaimo... the one thing about this disease is that nothing last! The good or the bad. It all comes and goes before we truly get connected. You are doing good. There is nothing wrong with feeling. It is what we do with it that matters and you seem to have a handle on it.

As for the sleeping. A night time caregiver for a few night a week might be an option to give you the rest you need. Another suggestion is to try Melatonin. It is a naturally occurring chemical that gives us our sleep pattern. It is diminished in the elderly and even more so in dementia patients. It is an over the counter product here. Mom was a chronic night walker who rarely slept during the day so she was exhausting herself. I started her on Melatonin at bedtime a few months back and she is sleeping so very much better. It doesn't have the harsh chemical after effect and doesn't add to his confusion or drowsiness during the day as many pharmaceutical sleep aids. There is also some new information that it may even help with sundowning but that is inconclusive at this time. It might be worth trying

I hope the good returns and kudo's to you for recognizing your emotions and dealing with them

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Re: good day came to an end!

i am glad you are venting. its good for you. a caregiver might be a possibility for you for short periods of time.

 
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Re: good day came to an end!

Thanks for your advice---I took it and was pleasantly surprised!

 
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