Thank you Judy for your kind words and your offer of a solution. I don't post much on this board, as I think I pretty much conveyed the whole problem in my first post, but I really appreciate the responses I've received.
That being said, my sister and brother are both living with my parents as a temporary solution to some major set-backs. My brother is not assertive at all, but my sister has always had a way with my Dad!
As I stated in my post: my Dad is totally in denial, and he is also not assertive at all!!
I will ask one of them to intervene, but with their close proximity, I am not sure about any success.
Now my oldest brother has the most influence with my Dad as he really respects my brother. When he is better (he was recently hospitalized) I will ask him to talk to our Dad.
Somethings got to give!!
I had my Mom over a week or two ago to scrapbook, like we used to do, and she was fine! It comes and goes, as I am sure you are familiar with.
I am writing you a novelette so I will end here.
I hope this works, as it would be so much better if this was all in place before it progresses any further!!