Keysey, a good facility has people like Lisa. I did such follow up visits from time to time but I usually called first
Hang on to the phone number of that facility for future reference!! It is all beginning to fall into place.
It is difficult to know what is right for the kids but on the flip side kids tend to adjust and rise to the occasion. The responses of the 6 grand daughters to Mom's Alzheimer's has been a study in itself. My daughter loves and feels it is necessary to spend as much time with Mom as possible. She gets the disease! But she is a product of her upbringing and her Mom
She spent many years growing up in the long term care facility with me when I was working there. We have had long discussions about the disease, death, dying, and living your best with what life hands you. There are three that will come sometimes if you go with them. A little tentative but they try. There are two that find it disturbing. They would not visit with Mom at first but do a little better now. What you need to do is just what you have done. Talk to your kids. Let them know what is happening and how you feel. Listen to how they feel. You are doing well
Sometimes else I see is that when we calm our minds, things tend to start happening. Lisa's visit was a result of you looking for alternatives for your Dad. I have found that when my mind is filled with stress, concern, worry, anxiety... it doesn't work too well. Those emotions seem to paralyze my thought processes and everything grinds to a halt. When I quiet my mind it thinks better and the little things I do lead to good things. I truly believe that we are what we think and our world responds. Thoughts turn into emotions which determine our actions. Our actions define what happens. It's not what happens to us that matters as much as how we handle what comes our way
This will work out in the end.... As Dad used to say... if it's hasn't worked out yet then it's not the end
It is up to us to find the good in life.