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Old 05-04-2012, 07:18 PM   #21
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Re: Best way to take away car?

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Soon, I will be at the state you are at, SOTM, and make the decision and figure out how to take the car away. Worse, I have to figure out how to make it all work when she cannot drive.
It just happened for us, thank God! It would be an impossibility for one of us to take the car away. Him having a minor accident and being taken to a hospital with his car in a parking lot was SO perfect for us. His daughter even brought up that several doctors stated he should not drive when he was wondering about his car. He wanted to hear nothing of it.

The approach I was preparing to take was to disable the car. Then, since it would not start, take it down to a mechanic known and trusted by your wife. Clue him in on it, and even throw him a few bucks to go along with the gag that the car is ruined. Then say we need to save up, or something similar, for another car....or try and talk her into not driving then. Will soemthing like that work for you? Hopefully , but be creative.

 
Old 05-04-2012, 07:23 PM   #22
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Re: Best way to take away car?

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Fully agree and want to reiterate that I have found it is a good idea to have someone or something "else" be the heavy or the bad guy instead of you or the family.
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This has been working very well for us. He is a very paranoid guy, even well before his disease showed. One of his scenarios was that the state took the car away to force him to take the bus, since the state is short on money. I run with stuff like that for a minute or so, just long enough to validate his feelings on it and his frustation. Then change the subject to something totally different.

Its a fine line to walk though. I have slippped and said we should do a certain thing....and he grabbed on to that idea for weeks and would not let it go, lol.

 
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