Re: Please help me understand
Usually if the nursing home wants to deal with hospice or have some kind of choice on being treated or not, they need to ask the POA to sign a form to agree to the conditions. Or the family needs to tell the doctor DNR (no CPR) and he will put it down in the paper. Recently my FIL's NH director asked my husband to sign things like this in a piece of paper (POLST) as the state required.
In other words, when it comes to different treatment style (hospice or natural or less aggressive treatment) the doctor or NH has to ask the family or POA for permission. It is Dad's home now.
Rarely a doctor would decide for you to give up and etc. Usually it is to give up antibiotics or food IV, not regular medications.
In this case, it may be adjustment of the med.
However, the way Mom communicates with the doctor is not quite right - the doctor or senior home should have notified your Mom or ask her for permission. At least the family has to know. Did the doctor tell you the next day? Maybe they didn't have time to notify you yet.
It does not make sense that Mom has to look at the record in the back. Ask Mom to call the doctor and talk to him directly.
I don't think the doctor has the guts to do this and he didn't know your Dad for long. The way my FIL's former doctor stopped all medications made me think his former doctor was incompetent, that is all.
Last edited by ninamarc; 06-01-2012 at 10:44 AM.