Jannywmm

I posted on this board in May 2011 when my mother was diagnosed with dementia. It was one of the most tumultuous times in my life (and I suppose hers - but the sweet part is that she can't remember anything from 5 minutes ago, let alone a year!) There were two geri psych unit stays before placing her in a Sunrise Facility on a secured floor where she has been for the last 13 months without incidence. I finally broke through my brick wall 5 months ago when I joined an Alzheimer's Support Group. I felt that I was ready, willing and able to listen and respond to others as well as share my experiences. This board, with you veterans, does just that, as I browse through the threads over a year later. Bravo! Not all areas have "live" support groups and not all are the same (from what I understand), so a board like this can help (as it did for me). I have now accepted my Mom's condition and no longer feel guilty for something I did not cause. I am understanding the disease more by getting to know the other residents on her floor. Just like all of us are different from one another, so are people with dementia - even those who can't talk, still have light and personality in their eyes! I sometimes enjoy visiting with them more than with my Mom (it gets a bit repetitive with her). I've joined the Sunrise Team for a Sept. Alz Walk, too. My relationships with my brothers and sisinlaws have improved, too. Because I've let go of judgement, I don't think or worry about what they aren't or are doing for Mom and if they are doing something, I don't judge the "quality" of the deed. I am in a good place for now. Feels good. If I ever retire, I imagine myself volunteering! Peace, Love and Light to all!