Re: The one single thing I most regret and miss ....
Wow... I am sorry that you are suffering through breast cancer. It is a lot. Please remember to take care of yourself, first and foremost. The chemo regiment that you need to endure will already tax you to the extreme. You know, with dementia, the basic emotional bond seems to be the most persistent. It is good to hear your hubby still able to show his care and concern for you, even if his back rubs are less than stellar! (I don't have that problem. My DW has always given very lousy back rubs. I have not expectations!)
Lucy has been in a fairly prolonged period (couple of months!) of relative lucidity. The medication prescribed by her neurologist, ostensibly to treat epileptic seizures, seems to be helping greatly in stabilizing her mood swings. Her short term memory lapses are also not as severe. So there is a bit of normalcy in the household, at least for the time being. However, the dysfunctions involving higher reasoning (e.g. 2+13 = what?) are still there, except they are much easier for me to deal with because of her more even keeled mood. The memory "holes" are still as gaping, if not slightly larger, which she is learning to fill in with fictitious memories. This "hole filling" is mostly harmless, which I just let go, but at times can be a bit tricky to deal with, especially when it pertains to a critical issue. I am maintaining for the time being. As is my darling Lucy.