I'll be having Christmas Dinner at the Nursing Home at 12 noon, this is when they have their Christmas Dinner. My hubby and I will be leaving for home around 3:30 p.m. to go home. Last year my mom was yelling and saying we were leaving her there by herself on Christmas Day. We left around 4 p.m. She'll be saying "it is still early" "can I come with you". I don't want to tell her we're having company or somewhere else to go because she'll want to come with us. Some people have said to tell her you have to go home for some reason and you'll be back. I don't feel right about this. Does anyone have any other ideas?
Bearcubs
The following user gives a hug of support to bearcubs: ninamarc (12-23-2012)
Why tell her anything specific... "We have to go, see you later Mom" is sufficient. Remember not to complicate her life and your life with too much information. You will see her later and you do have to go. All of that is true. There is no reason to add location or time frame in there. If she ask questions, repeat what you have said. Do not prolong the departure. Get up, say you are going, and leave. Do not expect her to give you a happy good bye, come back later, and a kiss. She doesn't want you to leave and you don't want to leave. Guilt slows your feet. So if you plan to leave, for your sake and hers, do it quickly. If it is really difficult to get away from her and leave you can cue in the care giver and they can distract Mom while you leave. Keep it simple
Love, deb
The following user gives a hug of support to Gabriel: bearcubs (12-21-2012)
The Following User Says Thank You to Gabriel For This Useful Post: bearcubs (12-21-2012)
Deb, thank you for getting back to me so quickly with your idea. I will try this and I hope it will work. Merry Christmas to you and your family. Wishing you a lovely holiday season. All the Best for the coming year. Thank you for caring!! Hugs and Love
