Re: Husband cut tips off 2 fingers... how to deal?
I am so sorry this accident has left you feeling so vulnerable and upset. I agree that your wishes should have been honored when you asked your family not to mention this accident until you were both ready. While in some families, the support and concern of family after anyone has an accident could be very helpful, but if you feel in your case that you would rather this remain private, I can understand why you would be upset.
From here, I would concentrate on keeping you and your husband comfortable, and try and not allow the actions of others to add to the already upsetting incident.
We all have the right to choose who and when we share things with others, and many people would rather keep medical issues to themselves. That is certainly your right.
When you do attend your next family get together, for example, you will be able to set the tone for any questions or comments. I would hate to think of anyone joking about this, but remember that is some folks way of dealing with things that they are uncomfortable with. I would simply say, "Thank you for you concern" and leave it at that, if you want to say no more. People by nature are curious, and sympathetic for the most part.
Time is a great healer, and I hope both you and your husband heal from this accident, and can go on with your lives with no further trauma related to this accident.
Best to you both...