08-16-2015, 10:39 PM
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#1 | | Newbie (male)
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| Boyfriend who gets angry too easy
I need help immediately!!! My name's Blake. I'm 25 and have an amazing girlfriend, Emily. We've been dating for 15 months and whom I currently live with. We love each other very much, at least I know I love her very much, but we fight often. I don't like it, in fact I hate it, but initially when we argued I didn't get heated as much, but more recently, at times during an argument, I will become enraged and cannot control my emotions. My girlfriend, understandably becomes frightened by my reactions and it kills me to see her get scared and afraid to tell me things when I become angry! This girl is my whole life! She means the world to me and I wouldn't know what I'd do without her or where I would be! I plan on proposing to her in the near future. She has improved my life exponentially and I'm afraid there's a chance I could lose her if I do not improve my temper immediately. If there's any advice that anyone could provide, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
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08-17-2015, 06:29 AM
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#2 | | Senior Veteran (female)
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| Re: Boyfriend who gets angry too easy
Blake, I just want to say to you, BRAVO for recognizing that you have a problem, and wanting to change it. Not being able to deal with feelings of frustration and anger can lead to serious ways of acting out, and it's wonderful that you see the danger, understand your girlfriend's worry, maybe even about her own safety..and know that you want to do something about it. I think that you need to look for a counselor who specializes with anger management. At very least, you should look for a counselor who DEALS with people with anger issues. Once you can realize what is underneath the anger, and learn how to give yourself a "time out" before you overreact.....life will get better.
I know that seeing a counselor may seem extreme, but at this stage in your life it can improve the REST of your life in leaps and bounds. You're a good guy and I hope you follow through, do well, and feel peace when you get into arguments with ANYONE, really, knowing that your anger is manageable.
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08-17-2015, 06:31 AM
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#3 | | Senior Veteran (female)
Join Date: Dec 2012
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| Re: Boyfriend who gets angry too easy
Blake, I just want to say to you, BRAVO for recognizing that you have a problem, and wanting to change it. Not being able to deal with feelings of frustration and anger can lead to serious ways of acting out, and it's wonderful that you see the danger, understand your girlfriend's worry, maybe even about her own safety..and know that you want to do something about it. I think that you need to look for a counselor who specializes with anger management. At very least, you should look for a counselor who DEALS with people with anger issues. Once you can realize what is underneath the anger, and learn how to give yourself a "time out" before you overreact.....life will get better.
I know that seeing a counselor may seem extreme, but at this stage in your life it can improve the REST of your life in leaps and bounds. You're a good guy and I hope you follow through, do well, and feel peace when you get into arguments with ANYONE, really, knowing that your anger is manageable.
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08-17-2015, 06:59 AM
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#4 | | Senior Member (female)
Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Texas
Posts: 233
| Re: Boyfriend who gets angry too easy
Anger Management/counseling is a good thing....admitting you have an issue is an important 1st step. Having been married to sometime with a horrific temper (the clue here is HAVING BEEN) is the scariest thing ever....if you truly love her, please please get some help; if you could do it alone, you wouldn't be posting here. By taking no action you are putting your girlfriend as well as yourself in danger with possible lifelong consequences. Wishing you the best !
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