Need tips for controlling angry outbursts at my children - Anger Management Message Board

Shmolissa · 11-19-2002, 05:20 PM

I have two young children and one more on the way. I have in the past had problems with controlling my temper when it comes to my kids. I'm worried that my anger will go too far and something will happen that I will regret...

mikesgirl · 11-21-2002, 03:30 PM

The only thing I can tell you is that just today I was watching Dr. Phil and your problem was the topic of his show. I am sure he must have a website or something, i wish you the best of luck.......

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robin25 · 12-15-2002, 05:27 PM

those are your babies your life dont you just stare at them when they are sleeping( i do all the time) they didnt ask to be here . they are just learning they are not trying to make you upset if they are they just want your love just remember your kids are the one ones who will love you uncondionally so dont lose your temper on them if you are annoyed just step back and count or go into your room cool off cause what ever choices you make you have to live with and you hurt one of your kids they have to deal with that for the rest of there life my mom didnt want me to hug her when i was 5 years old and we were at the top of the stairs she pushed me off her and i fell down the stairs my leg went all the way to my head it was a memory i have blocked for years but a couple of years i had that just pop up i guess a mental block i judt cryed, screamed out my mom doesnt love me so just be good to your babies they will be there for you when no one is .

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friendlione · 01-24-2003, 11:48 AM

Shmolissa:

Keep it in mind that they are just children, not little adults.
You are God to them, the best thing that ever happened to them, in THEIR minds.

If you react in anger, they will respond to anger, not even putting it together that their own behaviour may have been wrong. They will only see your rage.

If you want to train them to be self controlled, YOU must first model self-control. If you are flipping out, they learn to flip out. They will learn to get what THEY want with rage.

Realizing this helped me a great deal. Perhaps it will help you, to. Relax, all the things that seem so important will not be important to you at all when you are 80.

Nanook · 02-12-2003, 06:50 PM

Shmolissa

Some places you may find help are your local Health Department, or a child welface agency. Remember they are there to help families stay together in a healthy nurturing environment.
Good luck!