Great book on forgiving - Anger Management Message Board

star44 · 03-20-2003, 07:32 AM

After much soul searching, I realized the only way to get over the pain that someone has caused you is by FORGIVING them. You will be taking control of your life and you will be set free! It is the only way. Forgive and Forget by Lewis B Smedes is unbelievable. If you truly want to get out of your trapped soul of pain, this author hits every emotion right on!!!

HeyThere · 04-19-2003, 09:46 AM

You know that is great that you found something that works for you. Unfortunately some people have to go through all the stages so they can let go. one of those stages is anger- if it is repressed it will turn into depression quickly. It is normal to feel angry when wronged restoration of balance of justice it is survival instinct. Some people who are in it can't control it blind rage, mostly women because we've havenot been taught to physically get rid of this adrenaline. It is made worse by multiple stressors. It is made worse my the phases of the moon and hormones. It is also made worse by Vodka for some reason (I've heard this from two men <drinking and then doing w/cocaine or anphetemines> and three ladies just the drinking of it turns them into vicious B###### ).

I've seem to have gotten by this by getting rid of major stressors and allowed to be vent being mad, crying, angry, bitter, deppressed, anxious feelings. Now I just laugh sometimes. I know everything is for a reason but sometimes we are so close we can't see it, the big picture will eventually come along with time.

RL@ · 04-19-2003, 12:14 PM

Star44 ......... I found that forgiveness is a promise that can be made and kept regardless of fruit, faith, or feeling.
It's a promise that involves three things:
1. I won't raise these matters with you again.
2. I won't tell others about them.
3. I won't "dwell" on them in my own mind.

Keeping this promise MAY lead to forgetting. But forgetting is another story. We can forgive but only God has the power to forget - or help us forget some things.

Have A Nice Day
RL@

star44 · 04-21-2003, 05:40 AM

Thank you so much. It is uplifting. Anger takes a long time to get over, I still have it, it won't ever go away it seems, but at least in my own heart I have tried to let it go and move on for my sake and my little family (my kids and husband). I had a sister, but she betrayed me in the worst way, my Mom has died, she had dementia and sister took her to a lawyer and cut me out of the will. Its not the money its the pain of losing love , family love, maybe which I never had from my only sister. But I know my Mom loved me, but she is gone now, and it is frustrating we cannot talk about what happened during her illness. Don't know how this will ever get solved, guess
I just have to pray, read alot, and let it go. Thanks

05-01-2003, 10:21 AM

I am still angry over what happened to me a year ago which I'm still trying to get over.