Big brother Little brother anger - Anger Management Message Board

LibraLavaBoy · 03-27-2003, 03:40 AM

Yep, little brother here. the thing is, Me and my brother don't talk much, its like we don't even see each other. If we talk to long one of us gets angry, and we start to ger **** and angry alot and don't talk for a long time. I'm 19 and hes 21. ones we didn't talk for 2 mabe 2 1/2 years, at all. and ever since then, we may talk once every couple of weeks. we don't hate each other or anything. both we raise by a single mother. its just that we both are so sick of each other if we talk to long. so we keep our words short. does this make us bad ppl? im the shy, non talking type. but when im out with my cousins i get along with them like nothing. we both are soon going to be on our own before this year is up. and if we was to move out. how the hell do we keep in touch? we are nothing alike. we can't go out and hangout. hes more like a 30year old guy, like the the serious, professional type person, so you know we aren't alike. anybody eles had this problem? I know we will have long distance relationships. because he plans on moving into another state and i may move to Cali. is like we get sick of each other after a while or something. i guess i let it go , im repeating myself.........

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chiron · 03-28-2003, 06:35 AM

Birth order plays a major role in how we learn to prioritize our lives within a family setting.

Your personal priorities do not necessarily have to coincide or run parallel with those of your older brother in a family way, but they do need to be true to your abilities, personal needs, and sense of self.

What are your personal anticipations, expectations, and goals for your own future? Have you thought much about this at your age? Try reading "Identity: Youth and Crisis" by Erik Erickson to get an idea of the possibilities.

Unfortunately, neither the educational system nor society in general help the young person identify these qualities of self-development.

healthinterest · 06-03-2003, 07:59 PM

actually, you're lucky. my big brother sexually abused me starting as a tot. i lived with his hostility every day until i left home. please think about this and realize that your relationship problems are not insurmountable, like mine. god bless you both.

chazygirl · 06-05-2003, 06:08 AM

You sound quite sweet. I wouldn't be terribly concerned. You are both very young and your relationship will change and grow as you get older. I've seen it happen. So just let life take you along, and he too, and one day there will be a better appreciation for each other. I will promise you that one day he is going to fully realize how important family is.

Chaz