Okay, heres my story. Somebody suggested I post here so.........
Well im a pretty depressed person, and see a coucler for it. My poor childhood and parents havent helped either. Well, wvery other few thoughts, I will think about pain, or killing someone, or hurting someone. When someone says something stupid in school, I will get extrememly upset, and cuss in my head, and maybe break a pencil. I try to start sht with people just to fight. I am very verbally abusive, and sometimes physiclly. My parents think im a danger to society. When someone trys to talk to me, I say screw off, or i just walk away. To me, I dont think this is a problem. This is normal for me.
If you are verbally abusive that is not good, and physically abusive could indeed be a danger to someoen else...and get you in a lot of trouble. I was in the same situation as you when I was about your age, with a few things different. I was a very negative person, and I would push people away when they tried to help. I wouldn't listen, I would say rude things to them, etc. Finally, though, after that year, someone got threw to me. That someone (a teacher) has changed my life for the better. I have learned that it's OK to be angry - it's a natural emotion. But you can't be angry or negative all the time - that doesn't help to solve problems, or make connections with people...really it doesn't help anything. It took me about a year to change my attitude and my outlook on life, but I am *so* glad I did. I would never want to go back to the way I was before...
I suggest you find some adult that you trust, that you can talk about your feelings with...and have them help you brainstorm and implement strategies to control your anger. Breathing works for me, or talking it over with someone else, or taking a walk... At first it'll be hard to change, but with effort you can make that change - and you will be a better person. Good luck.
You sound typical of a lot of 14-yr-old men. Hormone surges affect your thinking as well as your libido. Some people think adolescence is actually "temporary insanity". This doesn't mean it's anything to shrug off. Your anger is dangerous to you as well as other people. Don't let it get control of you.
I don't think you need to work on being a "better person", just a healthier person. This is where a doctor can help, esp. a psychiatrist and maybe a nutritionist. Counseling will help you too, esp. w/ someone who specializes in teenagers. Once you start feeling better, it will be easier to "act" more normal. (Been there, done that.)
Hi,
I read your post and I have to say, I'm a bit worried. You diffently need to find a good counciler to help you. You do have allot of anger issue's but it seem's to be your main focus. Take a look at your life, Your fourtten years old, yes being a teen-ager is totally tuff but reach deep down inside of you and see what your good quailty's are, start to focus on them. They alway's say there is a good side to every one, I know if you started to show that, people would appreciate you more and you would feel better about yourself. I think your so wrapped up in your anger issue's and depression, You realize that, which is a good thing because maybe you can start letting go of some of that anger and try your hardest not to lose your temper. You have a long life ahead of you, you don't want it to be so difficult and stresfull for you, It's up to you to do the turn around and I know you can do it because I can telling your reaching out for help by putting up a post on this board.
KW
Dear Why??
Councilors may be good or bad. Sometimes over analysing can do as much damage as doing nothing. You may need time to pause and reflect on whats going on around you.
At 14 you may be finding that you don't fit in as a kid, you are not an adult, and as a teen the world is looking for those typical 'teen characteristics' that they cringe from.
Being frustrated, angry, disappointed are all emotions that everyone has, and rightly so; its a complicated and potentially very shallow world.
The key is to control these emotions and put them to positive use.
- Look for people you respect and either watch their emotion control.
- Seek out books, pamphlets, movies that help promote handling emotions where the result is good.
- Pause and use phrases that can give you a 'reality check'. Like those signs that reference, leadership, integrity, honesty, control what you can, and allow others to control what you cannot. Share the responsibility.
Know that not all people are the same and we must accept them for who they are; not what we want them to be. Neither we, nor they are perfect.
If you do your best, be happy with yourself. If you need help, ask. Whatever you do, do not be down on yourself.
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