How does a person recover and move on from repressed childhood anger? I have tried everything short of a psycologist.(too expensive) I've done the letter thing, counselling, anger management blah blah blah. I have 2 kids and I'm always nagging and freaking on them for dumb stuff.. What gives? I'm thing of taking up meditation, yoga and tai chi.. any pointers or am i on the right track? < this guy looks like a burning hemmorhoid lol, haha take care
Rebaroz, SuperNanny had an episode last night about an angry mom. She was not affectionate at all with her husband or 3 children because she learned long ago to keep others at a distance because people only hurt you. Before SuperNanny left this mom was positively interacting with her children and letting them get close to her for the first time in her life. Does this sound like you?
ya I watched that ep, I thought she was a little like me. I do interact with my kids like getting in there and helping them clean and stuff but I think its more that they constantly fight and bicker with each other and I can't stand it... And also that they complain about their chores, feed the dog, who has a bath first etc....constantly..when I was a child our house was so discustingly gross and messy i can't stand things out of place now.
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2) My other great suggestion is to get Louise Hays Anger Releasing CD and use that! IT is a guided imagery CD that helps a lot!
3)Schedule a time during the day to listen to some uplifting music such as gospel or dance pop. Or listen to some soothing and calming new age music, eg: Vangelis. Also schedule a time to listen or watch some stand up comedy or watch cartoons or comedy movies.
I have tried anger managment counselor too. She only made me more angry by trying to make me feel guilty and ashamed. I tried several counselors who only kept normalizing my situation and the pretended it was all OK.
The first 3 suggestions have worked best for me and I learned that on my own, no counselor gave me good advice, which is pathetic considering how they are trained to help! I hope my suggestions will work for you.
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There are so many different problems in the world today with repressed anger that it's really difficult to find a good answer. How were your counseling sessions going and what went wrong with them? Sometimes it's easy to go to such sessions and get angry and leave because they're working. The idea of getting rid of repressed anger is bringing it to the surface and dealing with it out in the open. You may also want to consider talking to a trusted pastor, or seeking such spiritual guidance.
I never realized how angry I was until recently. angry at myself for allowing the abuse and hurts to go on and angry at my offenders for doing it to me. It is so hard to accept as when my first counselor told me i was angry i got angry. couldn't for the life of me understand because i didn't feel angry. i was sad and hurt. well you know what sadness and hurt cause alot of anger. I'm sure it begins in early childhood when we trust adults whose care we are in but who maybe intentionally or not hurt us. then we grow up and are dysfunctional ourselves as we have never been taught how to deal with hurt and anger. You know I was always told from childhood to adulthood that displays of anger are not socially exceptable. so if your taught that obviously you will hol dit back until you explode and then in a simple situation have no idea why you are so angry. loss of control is a biggie.
Hi having experienced repressed anger myself during childhood and knowing that its now part of our scripts i think that this can be managed very well if you have learnt to balance it by learning to express it in a safe place, i.e. discussing with a friend or mother or hobbie etc and letting go of it in a safe place builds up inner trust that u can make urself feel safe enough to release it at ure chosen times. We never get over this hurdle of repressing things sometimes it can be changed through choice, but always seems to come out as habit has trained us to turn things inwardly for self sacrifice, but ure an adult now - you have the tools to provide balance for a happy and self trusting life experience. Just have a little bit of faith and use that anger as you're strength to redirect it and free it safely.
Good warning signs is depressive moods, know to see it and acknowledge it and make arrangements to chat to someone or just run or whatever u can do to let go of it, simply a build up of frustration...easy come easy go...