Re: I'm ruining my marriage - help !!!
I am going through the exact same thing except that I am not married to him and that he has already seem to have given up. All I can tell you is to not let your emotions take control of you. If you do you will end up like me, basically pleading for another chance bc you want to prove your love. One thing I have come to realize and so do you is that his past is HIS past. He can't change it or do anything about it. I had to learn that the hard way. If you feel like going off do something else! Do not direct your anger at him. Go jogging, exercise, go for a drive if you aren't so upset you don't see things clearly. You would be surprise how much this helps. I would go jogging right after work so that I could relieve stress from the job and not carry it over into my relationship. It worked great. We never argued anymore and I lost some weight! Then I stopped. Huge mistake.
All I can tell you is to just shut your mouth, breath, relax. Show him that you love him and he will do the same for you. Easier said then done I know.
But if you don't do this then you will found yourself in my situation. Believe me its not fun at all.