I am 23 and just got married. My husband is wonderful,caring,loving - everything I could have asked for. The only problem,he was married before and has 2 kids but I thought I was fine with that. me and the kids get on great. My temper is just out of contol. The smallest things make me so angry and put me in moods that can last days. All I want is to sort myself out, learn to control my emotions. I treat him so bad and I say sorry all the time but he doesnt believe me anymore and I think he's fed up now. Please someone help me and tell me how I can fix this?
It sounds as if you are not really fine with the former marriage "..the only problem". Why is this a problem for you? Something is stressing you out, you probably know what it is. You must deal with whatever it is and sort it out. You are right, it will ruin your marriage. Post more. Sera
I am going through the exact same thing except that I am not married to him and that he has already seem to have given up. All I can tell you is to not let your emotions take control of you. If you do you will end up like me, basically pleading for another chance bc you want to prove your love. One thing I have come to realize and so do you is that his past is HIS past. He can't change it or do anything about it. I had to learn that the hard way. If you feel like going off do something else! Do not direct your anger at him. Go jogging, exercise, go for a drive if you aren't so upset you don't see things clearly. You would be surprise how much this helps. I would go jogging right after work so that I could relieve stress from the job and not carry it over into my relationship. It worked great. We never argued anymore and I lost some weight! Then I stopped. Huge mistake.
All I can tell you is to just shut your mouth, breath, relax. Show him that you love him and he will do the same for you. Easier said then done I know.
But if you don't do this then you will found yourself in my situation. Believe me its not fun at all.