My godfather/best friends dad has BAD anger problems!! - Anger Management Message Board

Rach4149 · 05-09-2007, 02:25 AM

Okay well my godfather went off at my mum today. Like REALLY bad and his wife is my mums best friend. He doesn't think of anybody else. He wont listen to reasoning. His other daughter became depressed because of him, and he still yells at his other daughter (my best friend) and i cant stand to be around him anymore. My best friend wants to run away and live with us because she cant stand him and just cant handle him anymore.

Anyway, he yelled at my mum saying that he never wants her to talk to my friend (his daughter) or mums friend (his wife) ever again. It upsets me so much because they are like a second family to me and my parents BEST friends. But i will NEVER EVER forgive him for what he's done. She was crying so much, which made me cry. He also accused her of ringing melanie after he told her not to, but actually it was me and then she wanted to talk to mum about some work experience stuff. I hate him so much and i know my best friend does too. He is one to hold grudges and he yells more then he speaks and get's angry about the craziest things.

I just need to know what to do. And i can't talk to him. At all. Not after what's happened i don't want anything to do with him.

Seraph · 05-09-2007, 03:45 AM

Hun, there is really nothing you can do. Just support your mother, be there if your friend needs you and keep out of his way. Even not knowing the full story, it sounds as if he does have an anger management problem, but it is not really anything you shouldhave to deal with.

likesacookie · 01-06-2008, 08:27 AM

Honestly Rach, in my experience, some people are just crazy like that. A good friend of mine had a husband that we had a falling out with about stupid stuff like that. He flew off the handle and said ridiculous things and behavied stupidly. There is nothing you can do but be supportive of the people that you care about like your mum and your friend, and even her mum. And realize that he's being irrational. If he says anything to you, try not to take it personally and to see it as someone who is ill acting out. If your friend wants to talk to you listen to what she has to say, obvioulsy. Just be a good friend to her. But also remind your mum that he's basically crazy. Encourage her not to give up on her best friend because she has a crappy husband. As angry as it makes you all, saying something to him would only make it worse and make you feel worse in the end.

Best to you.

jessicaj123 · 01-06-2008, 09:25 AM

I can put myself in the place of your best friend, and if I were you I would do what everyone else is saying, just be there for her. She needs a good friend who can relate to how she is feeling. As for your mom, I think it will be easier for her to stay away from him then your friend since it is her dad. But good luck with it all!