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FistsOfFury · 04-23-2008, 08:40 AM

Should I just become a door mat and allow people to **** me off without reprisal? Or should I blow my lid once in a while to lay down the law around the workplace?

rosequartz · 04-23-2008, 08:42 AM

I think you need to strive for something in between......some middle ground....
how about being assertive and saying what's on your mind before it gets to the boiling point?

FistsOfFury · 04-23-2008, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by rosequartz

I think you need to strive for something in between......some middle ground....
how about being assertive and saying what's on your mind before it gets to the boiling point?

I certainly do strive for something in between, but I just can't help myself sometimes. Today, it nearly boiled over when a cyclist wouldn't get out of my way while I was late for work. I parked the car and did the ten deep breaths, only to have that same cyclist in my way again a few hundred feet down the road. Thank God that cyclist hit a rock and fell or I could have done something regrettable.

AnnD · 04-23-2008, 09:04 AM

Teach people how you wanted to be treated which means each and every time something isn't right you speak up but not in an angry voice ...in a normal every day voice and just a short 'I don't like it when you do ....'whatever it is. If they continue with the same thing then you respond in the same way or eventually just ignore them. But never blow up at coworkers or you will be seen as the nut case. Be smarter than the person making you angry. Read up on anger management or join a group or whatever it takes to help you. However, you really need to understand why whatever it is is making you angry. Good luck.

Administrator · 04-23-2008, 09:39 AM

Stuffing anger, blowing up, hurting yourself or others, or being glad others got hurt is your own problem, and it is unhealthy and inappropriate.

This board is for support while you learn healthy coping skills; on this board, it you may not vent anger or post about hitting or hurting others.

There are all sorts of programs/professional help out there. No one here is equipped to teach anger management.

It is up to you to get the help you need. You have to do that work yourself. If you are doing that work, you are welcome.

If you are not, you need to begin doing so before you post here.

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