Re: help me please..
lined up with you 100% I am 52 and get angry simply because I am 52 and not 12. You'd think by this time life skills would kick in, but hey-ho they dont. What I have found recently helpful is imagining the calm me dealing with a potentially volatile situation. My hypothetical responses are not fuelled by my internal anger. I really do picture myself interacting in this desired fashion. I target stress inducing situations and I am able to approach it differently. I have a 50% success rate at the moment which motivates me to endure failures and build for further situations. Bad-mannered shop assisstants are one of my all time pet hates. Just recently my husband was holding his breath waiting for me explode emotionally. I didn't. I was polite and didn't give anything away. That in itself spurned me on to internally dissipate my internal feelings. Which just evaporated because I was pleased with myself.. Hope you try it. You've nothing to lose. The thing is as a society people are becoming even more withdrawn into themselves - for whatever reason. Part of the reason some of us get angry, (and I can tell from reading your plea that includes you, is that you are aware) is we're dealing with people who are not aware. Their toxic anti-social behaviour is what causes us stress, and we cant deal with it. Try and be aware of how you interact with people. I've found that handing people their dignity often helps. An answer when mild often turns away rage according to wise King Solomon.
wishing you succes my friend
ps, the user name is such for a reason. Suggested by my two grown-up children
Last edited by mentalmum08; 08-22-2008 at 03:46 AM.