Originally Posted by Rollsharley
I am new here but from reading I See my story is not new.
I grew up in an extremely verbal family, quite used to yelling and screaming from my parents. It was always 'just how things were' never truely physical to the point of abuse. Though my father never spared the rod if he felt it was needed. My whole life I have myself been very verbal. Now as I grow old I fear my ways are set and I'll always be loud, angry or even just highly opinionated anytime something 'gets under my skin' although I've never feared I would become violant.
I've always felt in control of my physical self, but I do wish I had some way to change the fact that I react with my mouth first then seem to think secondly.
if you have a wife and children< i would have to say that maybe you could dig deep within and think back to how it made you feel when you where young and listening to them.
i have to tell you that i think you are a wondrful man for at least reaching out and realizing that there is an issue wth your vebal outbusrts if thats what you would call them. there is so much info on this subject becasue it is soooo common that if you really want to stop then talk with your family and be honest with them and ask for help then study,read and become a student and learn from less vocal people, read books on how to control this isuue etc.... like i said earlier about family, i guess if you have kids or a wife then i would have to tell you that my child and i are at the other end of the spectrum and we are verbally thrashed alomost daily, we live on eggshells and never know what will trigger the next outbust. I am made to feel like i am never good enough and i really dont know what to do becasue unlike yourself it is everyone else mot him. I am afraid my son will treat his wife like this becasue as you said earlier it is just how things are. So i guess just try to see yourself through their eyes and look up. God has really been the strength for my son and i.