Re: Anyone quick to anger with complete strangers rather than friends/family?
I tell my friends and my wife all the time that the avg person on the street would just as soon kill you as look at you...so then I feel that they hate me, and then it makes me hate them...I almost see them as "the enemy", but in my heart of hearts, I know that is not right. I just get so mad when I feel I have been wronged. People are so predictable...the secret is, EXPECT FAILURE...your expectations are too high that these people have any respect for you and know how to drive, etc...If you go out knowing and expecting them to do you wrong (even if it is not intentional because although we take it as a personal attack, it usually i not), then you will not be so let down when strangers do things that bother you.
THE ONE THING that bothers me too much to describe, is people in my way...it makes me crazy...then I get chest pains and rage and then I am even madder at them for getting me upset by being the the f'in way. I really have to work on it and I am trying...I need to EXPECT that everytime I leave my house (especially if in a hurry or late to work), 90% of strangers are and will see to it they get in my way and do unexplainable acts of almost coordinated intentional interference with my commute, walk, etc. But I have to learn it is not like they all got together to pick on me, it is just reality and very few people do things the way "it should be"...I do most of the time, so I expect others to do the same but 90% of people are clueless sheep drones in the fk'n way and I have to learn to stop letting it upset me so much and accept it will NEVER change...I am not the center of the universe. But some acts are just harder to let go than others...some people deserve to be beaten but it just is not feasible nor the answer EVEN WHEN justified.
Unless you are assaulted, then you have got to just turn the other cheek...you could have either ignored those guys, or smiled and waved at them...I don't tolerate loud sudden noises and they enrage me, even if the wind slams a door at home when the windows are open...it makes me want to fight. But in reality, it is not worth being stabbed or shot over and a horn is not as bad as destruction of property...if I honked at you for being in my way and you kicked my car, then I'd get out to beat you too...put yourself in the other person's shoes...I might have been tempted to flip them off, but kicking the car is overkill and asking for trouble...hence a real anger problem.
I am gonna work hard to expect less from people and I think you should too and maybe you and I can be happier people when strangers would otherwise p1ss us of and interfere with our lives.