I had this same problem before my Paxil! Oh my gosh, I hated that feeling. Just when I think I'd be okay, I'd think---oh,no! I've got to go NOW. It is a very good idea to check out the bathrooms before you go anywhere.(If you can.) It always made me feel a little better to know that I could go to the bathroom and find it if needed. It seemed to give me a little more control. Meds. really have helped me tons--try different ones if you can't find one that works for you right away. My heart goes out to you! Remember that you are not alone.