Re: I have a ques on social anxiety
As a recovering socially anxious person, I would guess that even without those other symptoms, that you may actually have social anxiety. I've had social anxiety (but didn't know it by that name - I was always called extremely shy) since I was a preschooler. I've been trying antidepressents the last few years - and they've helped my anxiety, too. I would have obsessive worry about things which would make it hard to talk to people, but then I would worry because what were they thinking about about my not talking to them or other thoughts such as: Am I talking too much? Is what I am saying really stupid? What if they hate me? Do I look okay? Am I too fat? And on and on. To get over this, I left home for college - and I was paired up with a roommate for freshman year. She put up with me, and I with her - it became the first real friendship I'd had in several years. We still stay in contact, even though she lives half way across the country. This experience on learning how to talk and listen, and then several years later, with medication (which helps stop the obsessive "worry thoughts" in my head), I am doing very well. I have have moments when thoughts become overwhelming, but I am learning better technqiues for dealing with anxiety and stress. I can now do programs for kids in my job, and I can talk with the public - and I even have friends that I can call on the phone. At age 29, I feel like I am learning skills I should have known half my lifetime ago - but to use the cliche, better late than never. With the help of medication and experience, and just practicing holding a conversation (I've had to make myself do this, intitiate a conversation with another person. . . ) , I don't worry AS MUCH about what the other person may or may not be thinking. Instead, I try to be myself. It took me a long time to realize that I am a good person, though perhaps a little odd at times, and will not be happy if I hide myself from other people.
That said - I still have issues being in huge groups. For instance, I love fairs, but if there are too many people there, I start having feelings of panic. I'm working on this, too.
I must say that when I am anxious for a long time, I begin to exhibit signs of depression - mostly the overwhelming worries eventually make me very tired and sad.
Last edited by storm12; 09-23-2004 at 03:20 PM.