Re: Fear of having girl friends
I know where you are coming from. I'm in my 30's, I'm blonde, thin, single and outgoing. I also look young for my age. I have had 3 close female friends viciously turn on me in the last few years all due to one or all of the following:
1. They were having marriage problems and so they hated all single women.
2. They gained weight so they hated thin women
3. They had hormonal problems and mood swings which they refuse to see a doctor about, so they hated themselves, therefore, hating women.
Everytime I meet new people and there are women around, I get shut out, ignored and IF they do speak to me, it's always the same damn thing. "Oh my ****! You are SO skinny" with that bitchy sideways glance.
If they keep bringing it up, I tell them my saga of major, serious health problems. Some of them have usually felt ashamed for their hateful attitude, and start acting nicer but there have been others who were SO hateful and spiteful to the point of me having to leave jobs because of their harrassment.
It's like, they don't give you a chance and they are looking for something to justify their jealously and envy.
I just dropped out of a church choir because no one talked to me. I was friendly, I tried to initiate conversations, I said "hello", I smiled.... but all to no avail...I would just get the cold shoulder.
I made a promise earlier this year that I would only be friends with sincere, secure, people who had a healthy self-image.
Try to do that for yourself. Don't think "it's all you" or that you are the one with the problem...it's their problem.
And yes, guys make the BEST friends!! I have found they are more understanding and easier to talk to than women because there is no "competition" or "underlying jealousy".
And if you need a shoulder, we are here for you! Just post and we'll respond!
Last edited by Vintage Wine; 10-01-2004 at 11:56 AM.