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Old 09-25-2004, 03:41 PM   #1
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social anxiety

I dont know really what i want to achieve from this thread, maybe some comfort.

for the last year or so ive had very bad eye contact with the same gender, i used panic everytime they would talk to me, and its embarrasing and really heightened my paranoia that everyone dislikes me. that caused my depression which prozac is doing some good for but i really feel like i should be taking more or doubling my dose

im so anxious just even sitting here, sometimes i consider im anxious 24/7 even when i sleep, its like a permenant thing i cant shake!
ive taken beta blockers but they leave me extremely tired and left me feeling worse

ive had counselling but my counsellor has left appointments inbetween for months and i feel like i have absolutely no one to talk too since nobody knows about it except one relative but shes sick of hearing it over and over

im dying to see a therapist or a specialist who can give me some direction because im sick of being unhappy/frustrated wanting to be something that can be achieved through some serious therapy.

just wish i could make anxiety go away and stop giving me attacks in most social situations!!

is everyone else with suspected social anxiety or diagnosed feel like when cars drive past the driver is looking at you and sees the anxiety within you?? or when you are in a big crowd everyones trying to get away from you..
and people you dont really know that well hate you??

I hate this! Im dying to make more friends but i just cant no matter what

wish someone can help me :/ im fed up

 
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Old 09-25-2004, 04:41 PM   #2
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Re: social anxiety

hey bluetooth.
I know what your saying. I feel like I gotta look away sometimes if I make direct eye contact its annoying. I also feel like i cant shake the anxiety too sometimes. Its like always there no matter if I feel calm mentally I feel it physically, ive tried the beta blockers too but they didnt do anything at all for me either. Im trying effexor right now maybe it will work who knows but I got nothin to lose. Take care

 
Old 09-26-2004, 05:59 AM   #3
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Re: social anxiety

Bluetooth, I also have social anxiety. I can relate to alot of what you said. when I cross the street I wear sunglasses because I some how feel that makes it better and they can't look at me.
I hate the feeling that people are staring at me. I also feel if they are staring at me they are also going to judge me.
I hate having to go anywere because i know that i will do something to embarrass myself.
The worst part is the sweating and the trimbling! I have other symptoms but those 2 are the worst in my case. I feel the sweating is going to draw attention to me and I in no way want that.
Please let us know how you are doing ok blue?
take care
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Old 09-26-2004, 09:04 AM   #4
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Re: social anxiety

hi guys i check the boards every day and more than once so ill be here!

i think people judge me all the time and i find it very hard to connect to someone, makes me feel worthless watching everyone having normal conversations and i cant even manage that
i dont necessarily think im scared of embarrasing myself, but waiting in a queue and then someone talks to me and ive got people behind me.. makes me stutter and i look stupid :/
my nerves make me stutter

i just wish i could see a counsellor sooner! im sick of feeling isolated

 
Old 09-27-2004, 07:43 AM   #5
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hey bluetooth
The counsellor will definately help you, I told mine about how I was feeling people are judging me and he told me im putting my thoughts into other peoples heads. Once you understand what this all means it will get better no doubt. Just wanted to let you know that.

 
Old 09-27-2004, 08:56 AM   #6
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Re: social anxiety

counsellors have told me the exact same thing
but it never sinks in..

i always wonder why?!

 
Old 10-01-2004, 09:30 AM   #7
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I have the same exact problem! i try to avoid even going to the gas station if possible or shopping. I also cant look at the driver right next to me i feel like i have to act like im going something like im on the spot or something. I tried effexor which worked really really well for me but it did make me tired allll the time and i couldnt get motivated to do anything. I'm now on wellbutrin for derpression but it doesnt help with anxiety for me so my doc put me on beta blockers today so we will see how that goes. He says to just take it before a big event he said it would help when my face turns red and would calm my nerves

 
Old 10-01-2004, 02:57 PM   #8
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I didnt like beta blockers, it does reduce anxiety to some extent, but i found that because it made me alot sleepier and calmer
so my whole body focused on the anxiety and i had worse attacks
it might be different for you but who knows

good luck

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Old 10-01-2004, 07:28 PM   #9
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bluetooth,
Did you find anyone to help you such as a therapist? I hope all is going well for you.
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Old 10-02-2004, 04:17 AM   #10
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I had 6 sessions of counselling but it took me weeks to realise after that that my unhappiness was the frustration of anxiety making me depressed.

i havent seen a psychologist nor a psychiatrist although id like too but i think maybe my case isnt that bad
who knows

 
Old 10-04-2004, 10:55 AM   #11
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Re: social anxiety

hey blue...i have the same problem...everytime i go out in public i feel like everybody is starein at me or judgein me and that im gonna make a fool out of myself...i need help u guys

 
Old 10-04-2004, 10:56 AM   #12
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Re: social anxiety

i never have looked people in the eye..i didnt think it was a problem ...guess it is

 
Old 10-19-2004, 09:20 AM   #13
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Re: social anxiety

I got this issue with eye contact too. It started off managable but has worsened considerably. Also the lower my self-esteem/outlook on life has gotten, the more severe it has gotten. Some say it's a combination of not wanting to look at people you deem superior/low self-worth.

 
Old 10-19-2004, 06:56 PM   #14
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talking to people is my big fear. I always slur words, stutter, worry about the sound of my voice. only the people I am very closest to get to hear the real me. I think I even do it a bit around my best friend. Making eye contact with people is horrible, too. I really wish there were steps I could take to combat my speech problem. Everytime I talk to someone I try to tell myself to relax and just let it flow but it never works.

 
Old 10-19-2004, 07:15 PM   #15
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Re: social anxiety

I'm going through many anxiety related issues myself, and its as if no one on this board has really has been much help, so I'm going to give you some tactics I try or have tried.

You need to help your self. Think about why youre nervous, why people of the same sex make you nervous (i.e. are you gay? afriad of being judged?) figure out ways that distract you from thinking of what other people might be thinking about you. Try to think about what your going to say next when talking to someone who makes you nervous, or picture them as a close friend you once had, dont think about how you sound and dont over analyze what your saying or thinking. I think it's possible to become less anxious with out drugs, it's just a lot of mental work and patience. I get so nervous that I loose my voice in large crowds but I'm unaware of it untill people start asking me to repeat myself. I stoped going to concerts because of anxiety, but what can help is pretending that people are who they arnt (at least until your comfortable talking to them) or pretending the noise isnt all people talking, or pretending there is ONLY the person your talking to. It's all so hard but it works.

 
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