People causing your anxiety - Anxiety Message Board

tooanxious · 02-23-2005, 08:37 PM

Havent been on here in a while, its good to know you guys are still here. Anyway, my anxiety almost always seems to be related to some person causing me undue stress. Like today my grandfather who I live with, while going to college, started to yell at me about a phone bill. It was $10 in charges for talking to my friend in california . He said "youre like a little school girl talking to your friend for so long". Then he went over how many mintues I talked in the last month. It really irritated me. Hes 84 and very cranky a lot of times and not fun to be around. He makes my anxiety level sky rocket. Luckily Im able to do some things like listen to music and exercise that helps but it still stresses me out. How do you deal with people who are so wacked out and love to argue. I just want him to leave me alone.

tooanxious · 02-23-2005, 09:03 PM

I just have to add one thing. The ten dollars in charges was over a one month period. I didnt run it up in one night. Well..I got to chill out over this.

worriedfemale29 · 02-24-2005, 01:07 AM

I have the same problem. I can't deal with arguing, or someone nagging me about something all the time. It will cause my anxiety to kick in overdrive. I always try to stay away from the ppl who do this to me, but were your concerned you can't very well do that. I know how older ppl can be with this b/c my mother-in-law constantly nags me all the time about something. I just try to avoid her as much as possible and when I am around her I make it short and sweet. I really feel for you b/c you have to live with it. Best wishes, worriedfemale

MKLowTone · 02-24-2005, 04:04 AM

Yeah it gets to me too, sometimes even if it's other people having an argument outside my door I get anxious and panicky

I find I just have to get out of the situation completely but I agree that sometimes that's not easy - usually "I'm not feeling great" works well enough to allow me to leave though

tooanxious · 02-24-2005, 04:46 PM

Thanks for the input. It is best to just ignore them and try to not get into an argument no matter what they stay becuase theyll never admit there wrong it seems. The only way to really win is to just keep annoying, stressful people out of your life. Although this isnt possible completely.