Social Anxiety & Relationships - Anxiety Message Board

Dragonflyzz2003 · 02-24-2005, 06:53 PM

Hello, I have a question for people who experience Social Anxiety symptoms, are you able to have or start an intimate relationship with someone and not feel anxious around them? If you are, is it because of medication? I have a problem of getting close to someone...I always have people in mind that I would like to get closer to but when it could actually happen, I get scared and nervous and back out. I feel sick to my stomach and the only way it will go away is if I push the person away.

stan · 02-25-2005, 05:35 AM

yes i have social anxiety im always nervous around people i always think people are looking at me and judging me i never look or try for a relationship because i know i would be so nervous i would prob scare them off or something i want to but its hard i feel the same way i back out of situations even in social situations i feel like running away from it but i dont i put up with it ive been on meds for this like prozac which did nothing for me and ive been on proprnolol which is a beta blocker this works while you take them but when you finish the course its still there so the doc sent me to do cbt to see if that works

goodluck

richdaws1984 · 02-25-2005, 06:14 AM

Hey man, I can so relate.

I have the same prob's. I get a anxious in social situations and especially around girls. I force myself to go out now-a-days and when im out i feel nervous and sick.

I cant figure out why i feel this way. All i know is is used to love going out with my friends to pubs,clubs,etc... (im 20 y/o)

Girlfriends is worse though. My last girlfriend was awsome. I really liked her and she was a ace person altogether. But everytime i was with her i always felt nervous and my stomach would be churning like crazy.

Even time my phone rung i would get this nervous, scarred feeling then i would check who it was and if it was her i would be feeling nervous while i was on the phone to her. Its crap, i dont want to feel like this and i cant figure out why i do. I loved going places with her but i it was like i was scarred of her.....its wierd!

Anyway, you arent alone dude!

Dragonflyzz2003 · 02-25-2005, 01:10 PM

Richdaws1984, have you ever taken medication for this problem? I have the same problem as you. At least u went ahead and started a relationship. I am 19/f and I have never been in a real relationship. Its not like I couldnt find anyone, I do like to have crushes on guys and all but when the situation becomes a reality..I get scared and push the person away saying I dont want to be in a relationship when part of me really does. Well..Im not sure what I will do. I have been thinking about starting a medication like xanax...I have been taking something called Hydroxyzine HCL off and on for a few years but its not very strong at all. Thanks for replying to my post!

Smith224 · 02-25-2005, 09:34 PM

I have two experiences since I have realized that I suffer from anxiety problems. The first girl I was with, I suffered extreme anxiety. Every time I was with her, I had a panic attack when I entered her apartment, or talked to her on the phone. Imagine going to dinner and having to leave your girlfriend because you can not stand being in the restaureant or out in public with everyone watching you.

With my current girlfriend, I do not have this problem. She has the same problems and I and we talk about what bothers us. I know what causes her anxiety and she knows what sets me off. It is with this communication and understanding that I feel completely comfortable with her and she with me. If I ever have a panic attack, she will comfort me and help me through it. I have relief in that feeling, knowing that she is there.

I do not feel that my past girlfriend truely understood what I was going through. I did not feel confident talking to her about it.

Communication is the key. A little compassion goes a long way and if you are lucky enough to find someone who understands you and loves you, you are in very good hands.