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Old 09-13-2005, 06:54 PM   #1
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Unhappy I think I'm getting lonely..

I have been seperated from my alcoholic husband for about four years. HE still loves me very much but my feelings for him have faded. I am 33 with three little kids and I am pretty. I would like to move on but I can not meet anyone. I hear that I am intimidating. I really tried to make it work with my husband so I am not just giving up. I really want to be happy. I'm not depressed but really wondering if this is it??? Is 33 old? Any suggestions? IF any of you have kids you know how scary it can be to meet anyone. I just feel like THIS is all there is for me. No where to go but ugly and 40 and alone. Help?
PS In my title I did not mean "pick me up please" as in literally. LOL I meant pick up my spirits.

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Old 09-13-2005, 07:28 PM   #2
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Re: I think I'm getting lonely. Pick me up please.

Hey Soulcatcher:

Both of my sisters have become divorced in the last couple of years after long marriages to their high school sweethearts. One is 40 and the other is 44. My 44-year-old sister has four kids, three of whom still live at home with her. She has been dating, meeting people through work, her kids' soccer teams, church and lately she found someone on a matchmaking website (I don't know if I'm allowed to say which one, but you know they're out there). My other sister is getting serious with someone she met at a co-op bookstore.

I can tell you are feeling down. It wouldn't hurt to put yourself out there a little since you've been told you are intimidating. Maybe you could try to make the first step. Good luck...I know if you want it, you'll find someone.

 
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Old 09-14-2005, 07:01 AM   #3
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Re: I think I'm getting lonely. Pick me up please.

Maybe its because you feel so miserable people take it as being intimidating, i know that is one of many of my problems!!
I know its hard with small children my husband isnt my daughters father she was nearly 3 when we met, but you can use that to your advantage, take your children to the park, and to clubs and all sorts you will meet many single dads in the park on saturday/ sunday afternoon, take a picnic and pretend if you have to that you have everything you want, people cant get to know you if you dont like yourself, try to find the things you enjoy doing and see if you can bring your children into it. ( I loved rollerblading and so i bought my daughter a pair and then pestered my dh until i got a pair so i could teach her! )Your not alone there is always someone on this board who wants to relate to someone else, and i'm sure your chldren will enjoy going to the park or bike riding with mummy, who knows you could crash straight into the man of your dreams.
Just remember that being in a relationship isn't the be all and end all, if you have other problems they will be there whether you are single or not...
Hope you find something to make yourself happy
Good luck

 
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