perfectionists? - Anxiety Message Board

stay2gether · 02-27-2006, 06:57 PM

do you think that in some way you are a perfectionist? and thats where the anxiety comes from? I think it does with me........

cmart · 02-27-2006, 08:13 PM

YEESSS! I do fear that is where my anxiety comes from in part. I always have to make "perfect" decisions. I have to plan my life perfectly, thus causing terrible anxiety over what choices to make.

Case in point: I moved into a new house last summer and was excited to decorate come Christmas time. I knew I needed a few new things and wanted to fit some of the old things together, to make the whole house look just "perfect". Well, when I couldn't make a decision about which look to choose ...and was worried that when it was all pulled together it was going to look stupid ...and people were going to think that I couldn't coordinate my own Christmas decorations ...and here I am striving to be a decorator.. I went crazy. I actually shut down from anxiety.

My husband laughed at me and told me that I have "rich people's problems" and that there are actual problems out in the world to worry about.

I couldn't make him understand the state that I was in. This is just one example, I do it all the time and it obviously gets in the way of my everyday life. Believe me, I have bigger decisions to make than whether I want to copy the look from the entire pottery barn magazine for Christmas.

Please tell me you experience..I am so longing to find someone to relate to!

layla= · 02-28-2006, 05:25 AM

I think in some way because we have so much big stuff to deal with when the little things happen, (like decorations, or people late for dinner) we just freak out, coz it seems to much. I used to think that i should be the perfect mum, wife, should be able to work aswell as run thehouse, and when i got tired of it all it made me question how good a parent i really was and why my partner would want to be with a woman like me. I felt like i have failed at everything, but now i am back to cooking fresh food with and an empty laundry basket, and i am much happier knowing that i can only do this because i am home, once i am back to work properly i know i cant be superwoman, and laundry can wait

GatsbyLuvr1920 · 02-28-2006, 07:07 AM

Me, a perfectionist? Well, I wouldn't go that far...Wait- did I put my commas in the right space?!

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Joanna21 · 02-28-2006, 01:08 PM

Yes, I’m a walking towards perfectionism. Like having everything super clean, clothes must be ironed and having no spots on them etc. I’m more of a control freak really, but I think those two are somehow related.
Take care,
Joanna