No Direction - Anxiety Message Board

blutack · 02-28-2006, 02:34 AM

I have a job that goes for three hours in the morning, and that's about all I do for the day. When I get home I lock myself up in my room and smoke and eat. I have a weight problem, and every night I resolve to do something about it, but when I get home from work I just can't do any of it. This year i'm supposed to be figuring out what I want to do next year, like university or a job or something, but i have no plans and no direction, and I can't seem to force myself to do anything about it. Advice anyone?

layla= · 02-28-2006, 05:12 AM

You need to focus on what you want from life and make a plan on how to get there, then put that plan to action, only you can have the determination to get out of this rut, hte more you achieve the better you will feel and it will give you the umph to carry on. Y not start small, make a plan that after work, you will go home do the bits that are needed indoors, then pop to the shop the library or just round the park for a walk, if you spend some time outside then you will feel so much better, and it will stop you sitting indoors eating and smoking.
Hope this helps, good luck

TINALOWE1961 · 02-28-2006, 07:52 AM

Also, please keep in mind that you deserve more and are worthy of being happy and enjoying life. Do it for yourself!!

mjewell · 02-28-2006, 02:09 PM

Wow, you sound a lot like me, especially the part about resolving to do something about it every night and then just not doing it when you get home from work. I would so rather sit around and eat and smoke than do other things, but I am just tired of being in a rut.

If you can make just one really big change you will be forced into more life changes. For example, my husband and I decided to look for a new house, and all the sudden in the matter of a day we have put in an offer on a house, and if we get it, in the next 30 days we will have to get ours ready to be rented, and we will both probably have to look for new careers...it just all sends things into a tailspin - so I don't have time to sit around anymore.

So just start with, say, university..start applying places, anywhere you think you might like to go, and once you get accepted somewhere you will have to start making exciting decisions, that will get you motivated, things will start to snowball from there.

SRMom · 02-28-2006, 07:21 PM

What are you interested in? What are you good at doing? Maybe you could talk to school counselor. If you could go to college and find something you love, I'll bet your life would turn around. Do you like children...what about teaching? Medicine...there are tons of ways you can help in that field. Journalism...advertising...acting...law. ...computers...I could go on and on. If you pick a place to start learning, you'll get out of your room and your rut, and on the road to a real career. Clubs at schools are great places to meet people too. Work, go to school and play...busy people don't have time to overeat and smoke

Best wishes to you...I hope you find what you are looking for.