Re: Who gets anxiety when they relax?
I think once you've had panic or severe anxiety like you are talking about it's with you for life. I used to think I could get better and never look back, and it has gone away for the most without meds 3yrs. I don't know why it's such a shock to me when it comes back; however, I do think I'm finally over that. I know it's something I have to deal with the rest of my days.
At first when my anxiety returns and is at it's all time high I too hate cooking, cleaning, watching tv, gardening, trying to rest or sleep, almost anything that I love seems painful during this time if I try to keep doing it as if nothing is wrong. For me, I can't relax long enough to concentrate on anything. I feel like all my wires are short circuiting.
I have also accepted the fact that I need medication and I no longer try to get better without it.
Here are some things that help me at first. I play solitaire with a regular deck of cards, not on a computer, something about shuffling the deck and hand placing the cards relaxes me. I do use my computer to play scrabble with maven, I have to concentrate on making my words and it usually kills an hour before bedtime if I don't feel like reading. I too read, but only before bedtime. My grandmother who died at 97, bought me a collection of books, (through the bible with Vernon McGee). They are so thick it will take me many years to finish them all. I also buy a picture puzzle around 300 pieces or more and work on that. I place it on a board that I can move around, put under the bed when I'm not working on it. I have found if I can get my mind off my anxiety thoughts for even an hour here and there throughout the day that it starts the healing process by allowing the brain to relax for a time from the anxiety. Try to make your fun time something that doesn't have a time limit on it or you will get anxious about that.
Exercise, diet and meditation also help, but I do these things already, and my anxiety still breaks through, so that's another reason I believe, for me anyway, medication needs to be a part of my recovery.