| Re: Do I have social anxiety? Is it me or is it THEM? PLEASE ANYONE ANSWER ME....
Do others around the office recieve cards when they're out of work for awhile? If so, what were some of the reasons they missed work and received cards? Did you send them a card? What kind of personal interactions did you have with your co-workers when you worked there?
This may sound a little crazy, but maybe human nature is at work here. People seem to send cards and feel more sympathetic when they feel like the person has been going through a rough time in their recovery (and maybe you actually have, but they may not think that). They may have this image of you sitting on the couch all day watching tv with your foot propped up, and your snacking on something, while their busy working. Maybe they also can't understand how you could miss so much work with foot surgery (even though your doctor says you can't go back, and your condition actually may warrant not going back sooner - surgery can be tough). Who knows what people are thinking? They tend to think along negative lines. Maybe they assume that others have already sent cards to you, so they didn't bother. Or that a group card was sent to you and they just weren't around when it was time to sign it.
By the way, when you go back (which you should go back if you enjoyed working there), let them know that you have difficulty in the social situations that you named above and you'll be surprised how understanding they'll be. Some of them may feel the same way, which could give you a special kinship with them.
Last edited by ckc27; 08-14-2007 at 10:49 PM.
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Hi ...I am hoping to get insight from anyone...I think I may have social anxiety. If there is more than one person in a room i get panicky and feel like I am gonna pee or blankity blank my pants because i get so anxious. If it is close family or it is me and just a couple of people socializing at home I am fine but when it comes to work and meetings I get totally anxious and try everything to get out of going to meetings. It is also for parties at work too...which they have all the time..they find any reason for a party....they cram 50 people in a room meant for 10 and I try and make the party late so i can just stand in the doorway and I am not crammed or cornered in the room and cant get out. Dont get me wrong...I love to bake and bake all the time (cookies, cakes,muffins,etc) and leave all my baked goods in the main lobby for the office to eat and at Halloween or Christmas, Valentines, Easter I but a TON of sweets for everyone to eat and when it comes to when someone has a baby or getting married i will throw in a 10.00 spot when the envelope comes around...I just cant handle being smooshed into small rooms...I cant do it...but NOW...I have been out of work because i had foot surgery and I NEVER RECEIVED ONE CARD from my work to get well....I am totally hurt...cards cost 99 cents...i just cant believe that my work hasnt sent me a get well card...I have been out almost 3 months now...is it because i didnt like going to those parties? It seems or i feel so isolated...I had back surgery in 1996 when i worked at another company and i remember them sending me this HUGE card and all the employees signed it wishing me well....am i the jerk or are they? I dont even want to return to work when the doctor says i can (maybe 2 weeks from now) because I feel so UNWANTED and UNLIKED...please anyone...
Oh God ...I am a social outcast .............
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