Hi, I'm currently in the beginning stages of a big change in my life. My girlfriend whom I shared a long distance relationship with for a little over a year moved to my city with her ten year old daughter. I'm trying to adapt to this life change as I've never lived with a significant other, let alone know anything about raising a child or co-parenting. I've had dealt with self esteem issues, mild anxiety, and insecurities prior to her arrival and have a lot on my plate to change about my personal life and accomplish in a short time spand and its proving to be overwhelming. On top of this, my girlfriend also suffers from anxiety and has been very sick with stomach problems and back issues along dealing with moving away from her family, friends, and everything she has ever known. Shes starting college and its stressed beyond belief with getting things straight with her daughter (who has been diagnosed with ADHD and borderline personality disorder) and herself. Shes on wits end with me cause of my constant hounding, crowding, and conflict seeking. She has told me numerous times to find hobbies and other interests that don't involve her and whats shes doing so she has something to look up to me for. I constantly ask her if somethings wrong, if shes upset or displeased with me, or if shes gonna leave me. She has told me this prior to her arrival that she needs time to get her life in order and doesn't need any added stress from me cause shes overwhelmed with everything but I can't seem to leave her alone when shes asked me too? I don't want to screw this up but I need some answers or suggestions to get past my problems before its too late. I have no motivation to do anything for myself cause I'm always worried about what shes doing.