Re: Fear of starting a new job
I know what anxiety is and you obviously no doubt know what it is. Irrational and unwarranted fear.
Keep telling yourself your fear is irrational and you have nothing to worry about. Its not like your going to die if you make a mistake or mistakes when starting your new job.
Everyone has first day butterflies, but that shouldn't prevent you from sucking it up and diving in. Remind yourself you are doing this for your family and especially your new baby, who's going to be depending on this added income.
Every time the fear sets in, just remind yourself of your love for your family and that you are doing this for them.
And deep down you know the truth and that is once you make it through your first day, you are going to realize "hey, this is not as bad as I thought" and you are going to be fine. You obviously sound like an intelligent woman and you will get the hang of things in no time I'm sure. And even if you don't, so what, its not the end of the world.
Trust me you are in good shape, remind yourself there are worse anxiety's to have. Basically by sucking it up and facing your first day, you will be going through the best possible therapy (CBT) on the job.
Remember you must face the music the first day, it is the best possible therapy. Also remember that all employers expect and understand that there will be a learning curve and adjustment time needed for any new employee they hire.
I myself am a general manger of a 20 person company. Make that 22, because I just hired 2 new people in the last few weeks. And of course I'm understanding and patient with any new employee I hire, I don't expect them to be perfect and know everything, "how could they, they are new". If a new employee makes some mistakes I am completely tolerant of that.
So remember you must face the music to get over this. Remind yourself of the truth, and deep down you know the truth is, that you are making a mountain out of an ant hill. You also know that your anxiety is totally irrational. Lastly, the bottom line is that you are doing this for your family which should make this all the easier, every time that fear sets in, remind yourself over and over again who you are doing this for and that you love your family more than you fear this irrational anxiety.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but that is what you need right now, you must face this initial pain, because I know and deep down you know that after the first day you are going to say to yourself I can't believe I was so worried about that, and I can't wait to come into the office tomorrow, "working is fun".
Over and over again, don't let the anxiety win. Keep telling yourself these things, until you conquer that first day and no longer have too.
Let us know how the first day went, and if you have any questions
Last edited by Leo123; 11-19-2010 at 11:01 PM.