My 10 year old daughter has been suffering from what I think is anxiety.
2 days before Christmas she caught a stomach bug and got sick at school. She came home and threw up all day. Then we had the holiday break. Ever since she returned to school she has had issues. She started waking up in the middle of the night saying she felt yucky. Her throat feels yucky as if it's pushing up, tight and like there is a lump there. She breaths heavy and gets shakey and after I lie in bed with her she will fall back asleep. Then, this happens at school. Then it will happen right before dancing school. It now happens every day. She doesn't want to go to school for fear the yucky feeling will happen. She has come home from school a couple times because of this and has missed dancing school a few times. Every day it gets worse. She says she feels homesick at school and just wants to come home.
I've asked her if anything different is happening at school, new friends, loss of a friend, etc. She assures me she loves all of her friends and nobody is being mean to her. Nothing has changed at home either. I've talked to her teacher who tells me there has been no change on her end and we can't figure this out. Every day at school she has to leave the class room and visit the counselor because she feels yucky. The teacher suggested she make a box filled with things that make her happy and look at it at school to make her feel better. She is constantly telling the teacher she is homesick and wants to go home.
This is so frustrating. I have a dr. appt this week to discuss this with her pediatrician finally. But it's very hard to remain understanding all the time. I know it's wrong to get frustrated. But I've told her over and over, to try and relax. Nothing will come of this feeling, she won't get sick. She is worrying about something that won't happen. But she says she cannot help the feeling, it just comes on... and she gets herself worked up, nervous, the throat feels yucky and she can't do anything but want to come home and be with me. This happens almost every night before school too. She can't get back to sleep unless I lay with her.
All I want to know is how to fix this????? What exactly would behavioral therapy do to help her? What steps. Because we've tried coping skills, talking through it, reassuring she'll be fine and it doesn't help.