Smokey92557

I guess the way I do this is by thinking positive thoughts as much as possible, and doing what you do - analyzing things as they occur and deciding what is important to worry about and what is not.

I used to always worry about everything. Even things like what to wear, and shoes and things.

Then, several months ago I developed a brain tumor in my frontal lobe and optic nerve and had a craniotomy. They shaved my head and put a plate in my skull, along with 45 staples across my head from ear to ear.

My analysis of this situation, was "if someone has to get a brain tumor - better me than a small child." Thinking along those terms helps alot.

I would get so mad at my disabilities after the surgery. Memory issues, pain, inability to work or drive, reduced vision, and the shaved head. etc. Until I learned that the more relaxed I am - the easier it is handle life in general. Some things cannot be changed and we have to work with them as best as we can.

For example, I had paralysis on one side before the brain surgery. Now, when I have difficulty balancing myself while walking due to the removal of brain tissue - I am thankful that I am no longer paralyzed.

I am also thankful that my hair is growing in, instead of spending so much time being mad that it was shaved.
(I'm not really pretty, and my hair was always my best feature.)
Things just need to be in perspective.

Even though I also have an incurable, rare bone disease, causing bone tumors I have learned that some things are out of my control, and now I just sigh when I find a new tumor and realize that my pesonal goal in life is to be as positive as I can, and do the best I can.

Worrying will not change anything. Helping others on various brain tumor boards online puts things in perspective for me. I am SO fortunate to be able to walk (even with a walker sometimes), and talk and see. I am thankful every day for my good fortune.

I found a new tumor yesterday, and will get it looked at this week, realizing that we don't live forever and having a positive attitude about life is the best thing one can do for themself.

I also found a mole yesterday that may have turned malignant, and am seeing the Dermatologist ASAP to get that taken care of. Things happen, and we need to be able to handle them in stride.

So, just trying to be postive and taking life in perspective helps. Don't sweat the little stuff.
Thinking positive, trying to laugh, and helping others and helping animals has helped me greatly to handle the obstacles life has presented in the past year.